- Keep a clean and tidy car. Go to the carwash or wash it yourself, particularly before you pick her up for a date. Make sure it smells good and that your car is tidy as well. That means no trash or clutter throughout. And if you have a pet, vacuum every last bit of dog hair out of there. Make sure you use those Febreze Car Vent Clips if it’s gross in there. I don’t care if you have a Ferrari or a Civic, just keep it clean and tidy. This is an easy win and says a lot about the way you run your life. You want to appear like you have your ducks in a row because that’s attractive. And besides – do it for yourself anyway! It’s a smart way to elevate your life.
- Dress for success. Feel free to book a discovery call with me, as I specialize in the causal makeover. I also have stylists on hand to work with you for formal attire. Nonethless, you can elevate your game exponentially if you dress in a stylish way. There’s nothing worse than a man showing up for a hiking date in athletic attire that doesn’t go together, ugly socks that are showing, and uncool sunglasses. These are easy fixes and easy wins. Hire me and I will elevate your game tremendously; or ask a female friend (if you have one) or a stylish male friend (if he exists and is willing) to take you shopping and get your casual game in order. Since COVID, men in suits/daily formal attire (for work) are way less common (even though every woman loves to see a man in a suit!); so, we must make sure your casual attire is on point, coordinated, and intentional. Down to the socks and sneakers you choose. Also, keep your sneakers clean. And if you they’re worn out, spring for a new pair. Put some effort into yourself. If you want her to look good, you need to look good. The way you dress conveys a lot about you. This is an easy win. Ask for help.
- Your Home. Living in a home that has not been designed/decorated is not okay. This is an easy way to elevate your game: hire an interior designer or a friend that knows how to do design and get your apartment/home styled out. You want to make a woman feel comfortable in your living environment and you are showing her the lifestyle you can offer her. If you figure that you’ll just do that later when you get married, and live in an undecorated, depressing bachelor pad for now, you’re not thinking the right way. You need to level up, on whatever budget you have, so that she feels at ease in your home. And it goes without saying, keep your home clean and also tidy. That’s just good for your emotional well-being, but also, it’s an easy way to elevate your game. She will find a clean, well designed, tidy home much more attractive than a scary, uncomfortable, dismal bachelor pad. Spend the money. The ROI is worth it. And remember, put the dog away when she comes over; and, the dog sleeps in the DOG bed, not your bed. I have referrals to high-end and lower-end designers that I approve of, in the Bay Area. If you live elsewhere, Thumbtack or Yelp are useful resources for finding designers within your budget.
- Your Hair. Unfortunately for men, you don’t have the option for hair extensions, like women do. I empathize with those of you that are balding and struggling with that aspect of aging. Hair is a sensitive thing. I am happy to do consults on what to do with your current state, if you’re balding. Just book a discovery call with me. Or you a can consult with an honest and stylish female friend/high end hairdresser in your area. (If you’re in the Bay Area, I have a strong reference to an elite stylist and can get you in). Sometimes, you just need to shave the whole head. Wear cool hats most of the time. That’s totally fine. Find out if you look better in baseball hats worn backwards or forwards. (From me, if you decide you want individualized help; or from a trusted stylish male or female friend). At night, you’ll just have to rock the shaved head look (if it’s a fancy restaurant) or rock the hat, if you’re in a casual place. It’s a bold, confident move. Let it go if you’re hanging on to random hair for dear life. Build your esteem. Elevate your wallet. Elevate your game with women (book a discovery call and I can help with that with my program). Just lean into aging versus holding on to floppy hair for dear life. You have wisdom and game now; and if you don’t have game, just hire me.
- Hygiene and Grooming. Be clean and take at least one shower a day. You guys don’t have to blow-dry your hair – so enjoy that aspect of being a man and get in the shower! I recommend morning and night. And definitely right before you take her on a date. Remember to manscape! If you don’t know what that means, search the internet. Use lots of soap and keep it clean. I personally like bare – maybe some hippy women like a bush. But less hair means less smell and more appeal to the woman. Brazilians are in for us, so if women take on that task, the least you can do is get rid of the hair, use lots of soap, and take lots of showers.
- Physique. If you want her to be physically fit, you need to be physically fit. Being fit communicates an interest in health and well-being, which is highly appealing to women that also value those things. The days of being rich and fat are over. Women work and make money now too, so you need to match her. Plus, it’ll make her sexually attracted to you. And I’m sure you’re wanting her to have sex with you! So this is something you have power over: working on your nutrition and your exercise. There are plenty of online resources and you can also hire personal trainers, go to group exercise, or follow at-home online programs. I am a big fan of GLP-1’s too. If you’ve always struggled with your weight, this medication can complement your efforts with food and exercise. Sesame Care is a reputable online resource for GLP-1 weight loss treatments; alternatively, you can work with your doctor. Being fit will make you feel good, which will enhance your confidence. And it’s important to be healthy! All of this is good for you, but it will also help you attract the woman you want. I’m not saying you need an 8-pack, but be in shape. It counts!